Essence of love in present era

Love is life. Life is colorless without love. Love is blind. Senses least work in love. These are the sentences that we daily listen from different people and many times others listen the same from us. It is true that life is colorless without love and to make it colored you need to have every aspect of love in life. It is said that love is natural phenomenon and at certain times we blindly fall in love.
We experience many incidents in life about the dark picture of today’s love. We experience from our surroundings about the suicides committed by young girls and boys just because they were stopped to meet their loved ones or they could not grasp the attention of their beloved. If we believe in the philosophy of “love is life”, then, what are the factors that force us to lay our most precious thing “Life”. If you recall for a moment you can recollect many of such suicide incidents in your life and certainly you feel sorry for the death of the poor young girls and boys.
I came across many such incidents and I am narrating them one by one.

I met my school mate after ten years of passing school and he told me about a class fellow of ours who committed suicide. With an astonishment I asked why and for what. He replied with a sad voice that people say that he had an argument with his parents and in anger he committed suicide. He continued with a lower voice because of a girl to whom he loved a lot. She was perhaps engaged somewhere else or refused to further carry on the relation with him. It may have be possible that his parents might have refused to accept the girl as their daughter in law. Whatever the reason was, his parents were broken due to his suicide.
One of my friends narrated a story of suicide committed by a young girl. He told me that he was sitting at a railway station waiting for the train. He saw a beautiful young girl sitting on the same platform. She was sitting cool and calm and there were no signs of grief at her face. A slow moving train came close to the platform, the girl got up from the seat and without any hurry starting moving towards the train. As the train came very close, she jumped down from the platform and collided with the train. It was really shocking for all and sundry sitting at the platform. Her parents came soon searching her and were unable to control their feelings when they saw their daughter perished. These were the parents who were left with no other option except to cry and yell.
Another story was narrated by a friend that a married man fall in love with a girl of socially low status background. His family asked him to leave the girl and pay attention to his son and wife. He didn’t think about the life of his son and wife. He drank a bottle of pesticide that caused death. He was the only son of his parents. The parents were left with mourn and grief.
These are some of the examples that I have narrated here. These are all the true stories. Every day we read many such stories in the newspaper. There are different inhuman activities narrated in the newspapers but suicide due to love with opposite gender hurts us more because they die an unnatural death.
I, sometimes, think that what are the psychological forces impel a young fellow to commit suicide. It may be the prevailing magical spell of the beloved but a thought comes into my mind that thinking, perception, and priorities change with the passage of time because change is in the blood of human beings. We usually get bored with the same routine. It haunts me to recollect all the suicides of young fellows when there are is nothing important than life.
Sometimes, I presume the instigation of the friends. It may be the friends and family relatives that stir up the emotions of the young fellows and they do not find any escape than death. They get covered with the shadow of Film Love (Filmi Muhabbat) and their young minds get too much involved in the philosophy of sacrificing the life for the sake of beloved. It may put a psychological impact on them and they feel it honor to lay down their live for true love. The suicides committed by lovers in our literature and movies are the factors that influence the young minds to this commit this horrible act. It is an illustrious fact that the influence of literature and movies cannot be ignored in any community.
Another phenomenon which I believe is the actual reason behind such suicides is “EGO”. Ego is the most decisive factor in taking emotional decisions. Such kind of young fellows perceive every act against their ego contrary to their beliefs. The decisive factor is neither love nor beloved but the ego of the people who are very sensitive about it. They take it a direct attack to their self-respect when they are refused to have anything or person of their choice in their lives. They find only escape in death.
Whatever the reasons and factors are but the young minds are not groomed properly. They have every right to spend a long life. It is a fact that such incidents are difficult to stop because the individuals find escape in suicide. The number of such suicides are increasing day by day. No certain steps are taken at government level to stop such incidents.
Media and social media can play a vital role to minimize the number of suicides. Government should circulate adds on media containing philosophy of importance of life, the forbidden of suicide in Islam and the condition of the parents after the death of their young ones. The most important mean to stop this evil is to include philosophy of Islam about the forbidden of suicide in the syllabus of school. If the young minds are taught the importance of life from the very beginning of their school, the number of such incidents may be avoided.
The school going children must be taught to have an aim in life and they should be directed to move in the right direction to achieve the aims. If they are stuck to their aims, they will certainly endeavor to put their maximum energy to achieve the aims. Working hard to achieve their aims, will engage them mentally and they will hardly think about the coward act of committing suicide. An aimless life moves to every disastrous path of which suicide is one.